“I have a history of making decisions very quickly about men. I have always fallen in love fast and without measuring risks. I have a tendency not only to see the best in everyone, but to assume that everyone is emotionally capable of reaching his highest potential. I have fallen in love more times than I care to count with the highest potential of a man, rather than with the man himself, and I have hung on to the relationship for a long time (sometimes far too long) waiting for the man to ascend to his own greatness. Many times in romance I have been a victim of my own optimism.”
― Elizabeth Gilbert,
I have learned that lesson in the hard way, but most of the time it’s hard to pull yourself from the things you used to do. You just keep on giving your energy believing that someone is capable to change and got nothing but disappointments and dismay. I have tried to teach myself that not all people can change, that optimism has its own limitations, that I shouldn’t manipulate it. It’s an eloquent way of saying take people the way they are and not the way you want them to be.